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New Year, New You

Make and conquer your New Year resolutions by taking control, setting goals, and managing your behavior. Here's to a New You in the New Year.

First off, I want to wish everyone Season's Greetings, Happy Holidays, and Merry Christmas!

2012 is almost over and a New Year is upon us. As I reflect upon the past year, 2012 was busy and fulfilling. I published my second book this month, “It’s Not About the Belt, You Don't Need a Black Belt to Act Like One,” (Amazon), the UMAC Demo team competed successfully in several championships, many students have graduated to new levels, I hiked the Grand Canyon with Team in Training and raised over $30,000 for cancer research, my family enjoyed a much needed summer vacation in Arizona, and now I’m preparing to enjoy the holidays and get some skiing in.

2013 should be equally promising and I hope you make it a great year too. 

Do you make New Year resolutions and then find it hard to keep them? Dr. Timothey Pychyl, PhD., may be able to help you by focusing on three ideas, “Meaning and Manageability”, “Emotions and Irrational Thoughts”, and “Setbacks, Mindfulness, and a Commitment to Start” in Psychology Today.

Are you ready for a New Year and a New You?

Your goal to "get more exercise" or "lose weight" or “stop smoking” may be falsely internalized and may be what someone else thinks is best for you (husband/wife, mother/father, sister/brother, or best friend). YOU need to own the goal, it has to have meaning to YOU. And if you are motivated, then YOU need to manage your intentions.

" I...

...am a couch potato

             ...need to reduce stress

                           ...need to feel better about myself

                                           ...need to improve my self-confidence

...so I will join a martial arts program to to get in better shape and lose weight."

This is great and you’ve made the first step. You have a goal (get in better shape and lose weight), you’re ready to take action on a new behavior (join a martial arts program), and you are ready to change your situation (I am a couch potato...need to reduce stress...feel better about myself...improve my self-confidence).

But change is hard, so be nice to yourself, and be mindful of both the potential setbacks AND of the great things that can come with hard work and perseverance.

It takes 21 days to change a habit. You can do this. And when you do, you’ll be happy with your accomplishment and your new habit.

Did you notice in the beginning I didn't say "have" a great year? You can "make" it a great year, you are in control.

Are you ready to envision the New You in the New Year? Then "make" it great!

Look for my weekly blog every Monday providing tips and insights from UMAC Briarcliff, "Living a Black Belt Life".

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Mike Valenti May 19, 2013 at 03:57 pm
The damage done by the prior BOE majority has begun a cycle of meaningful healing under the currentRead More BOE majority. Continued...
Mike Valenti May 19, 2013 at 03:16 pm
The damage done by the prior BOE majority has begun a cycle of meaningful healing under the currentRead More BOE majority. Continued...
Mike Valenti May 19, 2013 at 03:02 pm
This year’s school budget is a REDUCTION in spending by the district versus last year’sRead More budget. We are the ONLY district in Westchester to forward a reduction for our community to vote on. The reason we will slightly violate the tax-cap is due to the fiscal irresponsibility of a prior board using fund balance to cushion the budget and create the illusion of a cap-compliant budget. Please join me in re-electing Jon Satran and Sal Maglietta. Please also join me in voting YES on this year’s school budget.
Mike Valenti May 19, 2013 at 02:53 pm
Mr. Linder, This is YOUR post folks are responding to and your ideas. I find it curious at bestRead More that you began a public forum comment blog but advocate throughout your responses that the discussion should be taken off-line and out of public view. this really doesn't position you well as an advocate for transparency.
Sonny (Louis) Linder May 18, 2013 at 05:07 pm
CORRECTION TO LAST POST: The last sentence should read: "Let's continue to share, butRead More face-to-face." Thx - Sonny
Sonny (Louis) Linder May 18, 2013 at 06:06 am
Thanks, Jon - you raise important considerations and in a calm, dispassionate way, which IRead More appreciate. As for alternative funding mechanisms, in hindsight I believe they should have been examined and addressed this earlier this year had the decision-making been opened up to the public in a completely bidirectional manner much earlier in this year's budget cycle. A real take-away from this situation, in my opinion, is that we in the community were not given the opportunity to sit down together with sharpened pencils in a public forum and allowed to vet and actually challenge the Administration's assumptions in order to arrive at budget alternatives with the Administration and Board. The comparison you make with Washington is indeed apt in that it reflects the way decisions have slid back to being made in a vacuum and handed down to the voters instead of in a democratic fashion based on budget-to-actuals instead of budget-to-budget figures combined with the practice of over-reserving for expense items while under-estimating revenues. Although the Board did indeed reach out to me and 2 others asking for suggestions, when we re-iterated our request for an open meeting format to include other financially savvy community members, these requests were consistently ignored. Which is why we are in the current position we are in having to decide on Tues on a tax levy cap-busting budget requiring 60% super-majority. Which the public will decide, of course, and we will live with the consequences: either it passes, or the Board and Administration will be forced to rein in the excesses. And much as I love open debate, I restate that online posting leaves does leave a lot to be desired. Let's continue to share, but not face-to-face. Respectfully - Sonny
JanFisher May 17, 2013 at 10:55 pm
It is so wonderful that, recognizing the importance of STEM and following the recommendation of ourRead More educators, Sal Maglietta and Jon Satran agreed to bring on the district's first director of instructional technology.
McKey Rivers May 10, 2013 at 07:36 pm
Thank you Dr. Sternberg for your thoughtful letter. You hit on an important facet of this electionRead More few if any others have stated: electing Mr. Wasserman and/or Mr. Linder will provide the added benefit of diversity of thought as the Board continues to address difficult, ongoing educational and financial issues. There is a woeful absence of synergy produced by articulation of different views among the current Board members. The absence of a “check and balance” on the current Board is reflected in the inexplicable decision to cancel the May 13 BOE meeting (scheduled since last summer), which is the last meeting prior to the May 21 budget vote and board election. Is there no business for the Board to conduct at this critical juncture or could it be that the Board does not want Briarcliff residents to hear members of the community question the Board about the proposed budget right before the election? Electing either Mr. Linder and/or Mr. Wasserman will immediately benefit the public as the highest vote getter will be seated on May 22 and thus participate in formulating a second budget for public vote that, notwithstanding current BOE scare tactics, can be tax levy compliant and not involve additional program elimination or reduction. There is no doubt that electing Mr. Wasserman and/or Mr. Linder to the Briarcliff School Board will substantially benefit the entire Briarcliff community and provide a much needed check on Board decision making.
Herman Sexton May 10, 2013 at 03:48 pm
Electing Paul Wasserman alone would add a diversity of thought. The guy hears at least a dozenRead More voices in his head. Have you ever spoken to him? Did you pay attention when he was running for Congress for a few weeks? Ugh.